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Well, it's been long since I posted about what's up with Anay. There isn't much yet he's never still. Even in his sleep, he keeps on checking once in a while, if there's someone sleeping around him or not. He should not be alone in the room. As he sees some human presence, he peacefully goes back to sleep.

He's a slow one. Of course, I know that. He's yet to get all his teeth. As of today, he has 5 teeth on the top and 2 at the bottom. O Lord, give him the rest soon. He looks good with the bunny toothy smile. Ummya! :)

He has a big head. Even at the time he was born, the doctor said that his head is amongst the bigger ones but nothing abnormal there. I wonder if any mother finds her child imperfect. I love him anyways.

He doesn't speak a lot, at least, nothing legible. He can say 'Mamma', 'Papa' 'Baba' but he won't use it to call out people. He just blabbers it just like any other word. Now, of late, he has started calling me and Tarun. But, But, But..... :P He calls me 'Papa' and him 'Mamma' :D

We're tired of telling him the right ones but he doesn't budge. Perhaps, since I used to ask him to say Papa, whenever he said 'Mamma'. So, I think he must have got muddled then :P

It's funny, it's cute, it's heart-warming. He's always busy doing something. Yet, I cannot say what he does all day. He picks up stuff and tries to steal eyes and throw it out of the balcony. As soon as someone tries to catch him, he runs! At least that's what 'he' thinks he's doing. He still cannot walk properly so when he's trying to run, he's just picking up his feet a bit more higher and walking a little faster than his normal. But, the chances of his falling are higher. :D

He does something which seems like he's dancing but it's a dance I cannot yet categorize in a known dance form. :) Let's just say, it's Anay Dance.

He likes Temptations Chocolate, the only chocolate I like. He also doesn't like Dairy Milk. So, I'm content that he takes something from me. :P He likes to sleep late on weekends, just like me. :P

And, he's become too much a mule. Stubborn like hell. If he wants something, his 'un-un-un' will not stop till you give him that. If you snatch it and keep it away, he'll start wailing till you distract him with something better. And, he doesn't get distracted easily. He would not forget the thing he was asking for till you give something totally new and better. Else, he's persistent with his pursuit. He's cunning to get back to it once he's bored with the second thing.

Also, he's learned how to fool people. He'll bring a bite to your mouth as if to feed you, and as soon as you open your mouth, he would take it away, saying 'achaa!' :D

Idiot! Silly! Bandar!

But,as they say, tedha hai par mera hai! I love him. Totally. :)

20 things a mother should tell her son

The post has been taken from the following link. 

http://www.werdyab.com/2012/04/20-things-mother-should-tell-her-son.html

I found the article too important to let go so sharing the same on my blog, for later read.

20 Things a Mother Should Tell Her Son

1. You will set the tone for the sexual relationship, so don't take something away from her that you can't give back.

2. Play a sport.  It will teach you how to win honorably, lose gracefully, respect authority, work with others, manage your time and stay out of trouble.   And maybe even throw or catch.

3. Use careful aim when you pee.  Somebody's got to clean that up, you know.

4. Save money when you're young because you're going to need it some day.  

5. Allow me to introduce you to the dishwasher, oven, washing machine, iron, vacuum, mop and broom.  Now please go use them.

6. Pray and be a spiritual leader.

7. Don't ever be a bully and don't ever start a fight, but if some idiot clocks you, please defend yourself.

8. Your knowledge and education is something that nobody can take away from you.

9. Treat women kindly.  Forever is a long time to live alone and it's even longer to live with somebody who hates your guts.

10. Take pride in your appearance.

11. Be strong and tender at the same time.

12. A woman can do everything that you can do.  This includes her having a successful career and you changing diapers at 3 A.M.  Mutual respect is the key to a good relationship.

13. "Yes ma'am" and "yes sir" still go a long way.

14. The reason that they're called "private parts" is because they're "private".  Please do not scratch them in public.

15. Peer pressure is a scary thing.  Be a good leader and others will follow.

16. Bringing her flowers for no reason is always a good idea.

17. Be patriotic.

18. Potty humor isn't the only thing that's humorous. 

19. Please choose your spouse wisely.  My daughter-in-law will be the gatekeeper for me spending time with you and my grandchildren.

20. Remember to call your mother because I might be missing you.

Missing Anay :-|

I'm missing Anay too much these days. Passing the day at office is getting so difficult. :(

He's missing his Mom and Mamma misses baby.

I wanna quit it all and just be with him. At least for a few months. I sooo want to do it.

Anay's progress

Well, there's so much going on and yet it is all routine.
It's been quite some time since I posted about him but this is exactly the reason why I haven't. Anyways, I must else this time will be lost for me.

Anay has become quite naughty ever since he turned one. We're always looking on what he's upto. Under the dinner table, behind the chairs, running to the doors, he's practically always upto something. And, frankly, am not complaining. This is the most beautiful time of parenthood. The first one year is more silent observation. But now, the child is responding, doing things he wants to do, and learning new things. He wants to touch and feel everything..and more so, 'taste' everything. And somehow he always finds out something wrong or harmful to taste or touch. Just the other day, he was all interested in getting his hand into the AC duct. Phew!

But, people tell me that he's still quite a tame and lovely child, not bothersome, as they many times are.
He's become quite fond of me..nowadays. :) And, it's a lovely feeling...rewarding actually. Tarun is not happy, of course. :P But, he doesn't mind either. He can't complain :D

Am glad. Am glad I took the decision of hiring a maid for the dinner. When I and Tarun returned from our Chandigarh visit (2-day holiday we took without Anay) Anay was only interested in meeting Tarun. He didn't care to see me or come to me at all. With so many others to take care of him, I was only preparing things for him but not feeding him myself. There was no time for me to actually spend and do things with him. That's when I decided I'm going to keep a cook and spend more time with him. And, voila! My decision has paid off.

But now I also feel sad. When I leave for office in the morning, Anay is sleeping. But, when he gets up, folks tell me, that he looks for me. After spending good 2 days with me over the weekend, he was quite cranky in the morning today. Tarun, Mji, Pji...all tried to humor him but nothing seemed to be helping. :( I feel sorry for having to leave him. I don't know if it's just a passing phase and I shudn't think much about him. Or, shud I just quit everything and be with him.

Will wait for God to show me sm way.

For now, the happy memories are that during the day, he keeps coming to me, in between his plays, and would hug my legs. He would hug me and wait for me to pick him up. :) It mostly happens when am busy working in the kitchen. :P I guess he likes to have me around him all the time, whether I am doing sth with him or not, but just be there, within eye-shot.

He also has started enjoying and recognizing Nana-Nani-Mama. He enjoys his stay there and the people just get all goooey-eyed around him. They just can't get enough of him and practically threaten me to come home and visit them, now :D They can't wait for a month to pass.

It's a nice feeling. Happy!

Women

"Women,.... make a man want to shoot himself in the head and be done with it."


This pretty much sums what women do to a man in a relationship, as per a man's perspective. You ask any man whose been in a serious relationship, and he would agree to this. I read this somewhere and really liked it. So, you can take this to be true too. Or, you could go the hard way and figure it out yourself. And, come to the same conclusion :)


But, is that how I, your Mom, would explain the relationship between herself and your father? No. It goes much deeper than this. And I sincerely hope that your dad, despite agreeing with above, would say that I'm the best thing that happened to him. :)


Love is the best emotion, a great support and a continuous fall-back when it happens at the right time, at the right age, to the right person. But, if it goes wrong, as it often does, it leaves a lot of scars to yourself and to all others involved. 


That is why, it's best to let it happen on it's own, at it's own time and pace. Not to go looking for it. I know it's easier said than done. But, when I got married to your Dad, I penned the following lines.
" Love is like a tree which blossoms and grows as long as we both keep watering it."


This means that as long as we both want to be together and wish to keep loving each other, we'll keep making efforts. We'll do whatever it takes to be together, no matter what the odds. But, the moment someone grows out of it and stops watering the love tree, love will fade out and will die one day. 


Since it's a tree which needs continuous or at least periodic attention, it's best to have it once you're settled in life. Perhaps, that's the reason people get married or chose their partners once they are settled in their careers. 


There are lot many ups and downs that come in a relationship. The different expectations, difference in humans make it a big effort to make it work together. But, once you're beyond that point, it's a great support to have. The kind of warmth and freedom you feel, to know that you've someone who understands you, and wouldn't mock you if you cry...it's a precious thing to have. When it is backed with a marriage, the whole society, the world tries to help you deal with it. But, when it's outside the wedlock, you agree to face a lot of it and much more, alone.


Well, these things will come when you're seriously in love with the girl. If you're not, please honor me with this one rule which I would like you to follow.
No matter what state you're in, whatever your expectations are from the lady, always remember to respect her. They are more than just sex objects and a show-off for your friends. You maybe immature but your misdeeds/mishandling can shape/de-shape someone's future. And, you don't need to go too far to spoil it. Girls are too tender and their hearts can be broken by just playing with their feelings. You would meet a lot of girls who would show to be very hard and tom-boyish on the face of it, but inside, they all come from the same species. Trust me! 


If you ever are in a situation where you never felt for her but she feels for you, please spare her the sympathies and be honest. Have the courage and be honest and tell her your real feelings. It may hurt her then but she would respect you much much more than if you rather accept her and be dishonest with her.


Anay, I know the post is too short and the topic is too wide. Hope it is a tiny bit useful.


Love,
Mom.

Walk with my son

Anay has started walking almost by himself. Well, it's still almost coz I feel that his balance has not yet strengthened fully and it'll need some more time for him to be called as 'walking'.
On Sunday evening, I took him downstairs for his usual evening outing. Normally, we take him to the swings, get him to take some rides, occasionally sit on bench while he ponders around, and then head back home. All this activity takes around 30 minutes, at max. I know, that's like too less for a kid. But, that's the maximum I can roam around him.
So, this Sunday, I let him roam rather than take him to the swings. And, to my surprise, he didn't go to the swings. He went to the shrubs around...touched their leaves, then walked some more. Went to the badminton area. He would silently look at me, whenever he needed my help, in let's say, climbing the stairs. I don't know how but his body language, his eyes communicate whatever there is for him to say. :) It's a nice feeling. It feels like it's just a mom-son thing, even if it's not. :P
So, I took him around the society. He  went everywhere. He directed the walk and never myself. He picked a feather of a pigeon, watched the birds flying in the sky, looked at the sky-rocketing towers in the society, at the balconies and the under-wears drying there. Basically, everything that makes the world, makes our life.

It seemed like I was showing him the world. It seemed like it was a walk together. I understood what they meant when they said "Best friends are those with whom you don't talk and still it's the best conversation you had". I mean, I never thought that a blabbering person like me could ever understand such  a silent conversation. But, my son brought that experience to me through this walk.

It was really a walk to remember.

To add to the tit-bits happening, Anay has started taking a lot of interest in girls suddenly :P
On multiple occasions he has shown biased nature, inclining towards girls than boys. Isn't it too early, kid?? Well, as they say in hindi "poot ke pair paalne mein nazar aa jate hain".

For the fun for readers, let me put down the instances which have forced us family-members to see that he's actually a lady's man!
1. Me, T and my FIL had gone to dentist. MIL wasn't well so we took Anay along. At the dentist, in the waiting area, FIL was trying to keep him busy with a key-bunch while I and T went on with our doc visit. Anay forcefully takes the keys from FIL, gives it to the lady (in her teens/20s) sitting next. She gives it back to him, he takes it then puts it back on her palm. Does this thrice. Then, she playfully, closes her fist with the keys inside and he gives a nice, lovely smile to her...almost blushing. She smiles and gives it back to him. Next, his boyfriend, sitting next tries to play the same game with Anay. He extends his hand to take the keys. Anay Darling extends his hand to give the keys and with the second hand, shoves off the big-guy's hand. :O Whoa!! Man, you're not just a flirt, you're openly shooing off other guys. Hang On! Your mom is not able to catch up!
2. We were walking at night while Anay was enjoying the swings with MIL and FIL. A girl comes to the swings (around 5 yrs of age). He starts going behind her. Then, takes her hand and starts walking with her. MIL and FIL call him and he doesn't care to listen. When the girl's dad comes and takes him to the swing, he stands and watches behind her, hoping to get her back.

Man!! I know all men are same but wouldn't he take some time and be a boy or just a child before he starts on to become a man!? I don't know if I'm happy to know he's straight or am concerned to know that I know this fact so soon!!?
:)

Take Care Anay. Buckle up Swati Garg! God be with both! :)

Touched, Amused, Surprised and Shocked!

It's been quite some time since I posted. A lot has been happening but I just didn't feel like writing. Pinterest and DIY has caught my fancy these days :)
Anay is 1 year old now. His birthday went fine. Not as great as I expected but fine. Perhaps, too much scheming spoils the fun.
Anyways, ever since Anay's birthday has crossed, and ever since he's started walking, he's become one heck of a child to parent. God! He's totally un-put-down-able. He is always on the move.
He doesn't mind going in dark, empty rooms. He wants to touch and feel every thing in the house. He knows if he points to an object, people understand he wants that, and give in to his demands. He walks, he falls, he gets up, walks again.
Too much activity. I ask him often "Anay, what were you doing for the past one year? And, what has got into you now!?" :D
But, it's fun. It's fun to watch him. It's heart-warming to see him all around and full of things.

There are lot of petty small things he's been doing.
1. When I return home from office, I have a habit of touching parents' feet. I do that everyday. I never thought Anay noticed. But, as children notice everything, he did too. He saw me come in the house, he kept playing. He saw me touch mom's and amma's feet. He walks towards me, leaving his play, and gets down to my feet and touched them with both his hands. And, then he looks up, smiling. Ohh God! The feeling, the moment, is totally inexplicable. Totally Totally Godly. :)
2. Anay has taken to keys. He's so obsessed with them that he wants one whenever he sees one. He loves the crankling sound they make. He knows where the key hanger is. He would come to you, get into your arms, and point to the key hanger. He'll keep making 'ummmm'-'ummmm' till you give him one. The 'ummm's keep increasing in intensity from want to demand to anger. Phew!! So much for a one year old. He won't let you do whatever you're doing till you fulfill his demand. It's never a request. Damn, how do people discipline kids. For now, I find it totally impossible to deter him from something. If he wants something, he wants it, and you cannot deviate him.
3. He's realized that spoon and bowl make sound together. Now, he comes into the kitchen and asks for one to play with. I mean, you would think that how can a 1-yr old who cannot speak, ask for something so specific. Wait till you have one. You'll understand that they can pretty well do that. Amazing communication skills they have.
4. He's learnt to say 'No'. Not exactly speak out 'No' but to shake his head and do a 'no'. Initially, I thought he enjoys my hair waving, coz he started doing it when I got a hair cut. But, now I realize that he sees me doing a 'no' with my head shaking, so much, that he's learnt that early. :D Now, when I try to teach him to say yes by nodding his head, he refuses to learn that. Another tool in his arsenal to tell that he doesn't want to eat something. I'm having a tough time feeding him. :-|
5. Now, since he enjoys playing with keys and keep playing with them for hours, he plays with them and leaves them anywhere in the house. Now, then it gets difficult to find them. So, FIL tries to take it from them. He politely asks Anay to give them to him. He puts his hand forward hoping that Anay will keep the keys into his hand. Now, this smart ass, what he does is, puts the keys into GrandPa's hand and quickly snatches it away. :) He's given and he's not given. How do kids get so smart!?? I would expect a kid to not give the key and run away with it. Or, ignore the request. But, putting into his hand, holding the fingers tightly so that GrandPa cannot close the fist, and snatching away the key...this is totally unfathomable for me. :-O

Swati Garg - Better fasten your seat belts. You have one heck of a ride ahead.